3-Minute Joyful Connection with Someone New

Time needed: 3 minutes (60 seconds each)

Setting: When meeting someone new or getting to know someone better

Purpose: Creating genuine enjoyment in the discovery of another person

Genuine Interest Spark (60 seconds)

What: As you begin conversation:

- Let yourself be genuinely curious about this person

- Ask one question that invites them to share something they enjoy

- Notice what lights up their face when they talk

- Smile naturally in response to their enthusiasm

- Let go of any agenda except discovering who they are

Notice: The immediate warmth that genuine curiosity creates, how their energy shifts when truly heard, your own delight in learning something new

Why: Creates positive connection foundation, signals safety through interest, makes meeting new people feel like discovery rather than performance

Shared Discovery (60 seconds)

What: During the conversation:

- Find one small thing you have in common

- Express authentic appreciation for something they've shared

- Share something genuine about yourself in response

- Notice any unexpected connections or surprises

- Let yourself be delighted by the uniqueness of this person

Notice: The pleasure of finding connection points, how sharing creates warmth, the specific qualities that make this person interesting

Why: Builds bridges between different experiences, creates mutual recognition, transforms strangers into real people

Appreciation Expression (60 seconds)

What: As conversation continues or concludes:

- Express genuine appreciation for something specific they've shared

- Thank them for their openness or perspective

- Share one thing you've enjoyed about talking with them

- Let your smile reach your eyes

- Leave space for future connection if it feels natural

Notice: How expressing appreciation feels in your body, their response to being truly seen, the foundation created for potential friendship

Why: Creates positive ending, reinforces value of authentic sharing, plants seeds for ongoing connection

Closing: Carry the good feeling of human connection with you

Notice: How taking genuine interest in others enriches your own experience

Why: Reminds us that every person has interesting stories and perspectives

Tips:

- Follow your natural curiosity

- Ask questions that invite stories rather than just facts

- Let yourself be surprised by people

- Focus on what's unique about them

- Remember that everyone has something interesting to share