2-Minute Best-Spotting Practice

Time needed: 2 minutes per person/interaction

Setting: Any interaction today

Purpose: Intentionally seeking positive qualities in others

Active Best-Finding (2 minutes)

What: During any conversation or observation of someone:

- Look for one specific strength they're demonstrating (even if small)

- Notice effort they're making, not just results

- Find something they're handling well, despite any struggles

- Observe a positive quality behind their behavior (e.g., their frustration might show they care deeply)

- Name it silently: "I see their [kindness/persistence/creativity/courage]"

Notice: How searching for positives shifts your attention, what emerges when you look for strengths, how this changes your energy toward them

Why: Rewires brain's negativity bias, improves relationships, creates positive interaction energy

Optional Sharing (if appropriate):

- "I noticed how [specific thing] you did"

- "I appreciate that you [specific effort/quality]"

- Keep it simple and genuine

Notice: How they respond to being seen positively, what happens to the dynamic between you

Why: Reinforces their positive qualities, builds connection, creates upward spiral

Tips:

- Start with people you find easier to appreciate

- Look for effort and character, not just outcomes

- Small recognitions count

- Trust what you genuinely notice

- Practice throughout the day

This single strategy can transform your entire day by shifting your lens from fault-finding to strength-spotting.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​